Fabufit | Rookie Mom: Dealing with my postpartum depression
I guess I am here to share my experience with postpartum depression and anxiety and perhaps help you reading this who may be in the same boat and have no idea. As I said before, the PPD just creeps up on you like a thief in the night and robs you of your sanity.
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Rookie Mom: My postpartum depression

I know I mentioned this briefly in my previous ‘Rookie Mom’ post, but I felt this needed a stand alone post as it is such a huge issue and something I am still currently dealing with and so many new moms deal with and sometimes have no idea they are even going through.

I guess I am here to share my experience with postpartum depression and anxiety and perhaps help you reading this who may be in the same boat and have no idea. As I said before, the PPD just creeps up on you like a thief in the night and robs you of your sanity.

I have truly never felt so hopeless, sad, worried and utterly alone like I have in those first few months of being a new mom. I think I was also in denial about the whole thing, I knew PPD existed but I always considered myself to be a level headed tough cookie not easily unnerved by anything, but becoming a mom hit me for a six. Motherhood can humble even the most self-assured, confident tough woman, and reduce you down to a puddle of tears and emotions faster than you can say ‘new mommy’.

What compounded my depression was also being terrible at breastfeeding and sitting up alone at night pumping milk all alone while crying to myself didn’t help my state of mind one bit.

So, this was me, here is what to look out for if you are suffering from PPD or PPA…

When you read the two different symptoms lists below, one for postpartum depression and the one after it for postpartum anxiety and OCD, please remember a few very important things:

  1. You may not be experiencing all of the symptoms listed below or even most of them. Postpartum depression and anxiety are not “one-size-fits-all” illnesses. Your experience may include just a few of the symptoms and you may not have others at all.
  2. Many people have a feeling like the ones listed below every now and then, for a day or two. We all have bad days. Postpartum depression and anxiety are not just bad days. Women with PPD or anxiety have symptoms like these most of the time, for a period of at least 2 weeks or longer, and these symptoms make it feel very hard to live your life each day.
  3. Postpartum depression and anxiety are sometimes “comorbid.”  This means you can have a bit of both, or all of both. If you have symptoms on both lists, that’s not unusual.

Postpartum Depression Symptoms

You may have postpartum depression if you have had a baby within the last 12 months and are experiencing some of these symptoms:

  • You feel overwhelmed. Not like “hey, this new mom thing is hard.” More like “I can’t do this and I’m never going to be able to do this.” You feel like you just can’t handle being a mother. In fact, you may be wondering whether you should have become a mother in the first place.
  • You feel guilty because you believe you should be handling new motherhood better than this. You feel like your baby deserves better. You worry whether your baby can tell that you feel so bad, or that you are crying so much, or that you don’t feel the happiness or connection that you thought you would. You may wonder whether your baby would be better off without you.
  • You don’t feel bonded to your baby. You’re not having that mythical mommy bliss that you see on TV or read about in magazines. Not everyone with postpartum depression feels this way, but many do.
  • You can’t understand why this is happening. You are very confused and scared.
  • You feel irritated or angry. You have no patience. Everything annoys you. You feel resentment toward your baby, or your partner, or your friends who don’t have babies. You feel out-of-control rage.
  • You feel nothing. Emptiness and numbness. You are just going through the motions.
  • You feel sadness to the depths of your soul. You can’t stop crying, even when there’s no real reason to be crying.
  • You feel hopeless, like this situation will never ever get better. You feel weak and defective, like a failure.
  • You can’t bring yourself to eat, or perhaps the only thing that makes you feel better is eating.
  • You can’t sleep when the baby sleeps, nor can you sleep at any other time. Or maybe you can fall asleep, but you wake up in the middle of the night and can’t go back to sleep no matter how tired you are. Or maybe all you can do is sleep and you can’t seem to stay awake to get the most basic things done. Whichever it is, your sleeping is completely screwed up and it’s not just because you have a newborn.
  • You can’t concentrate. You can’t focus. You can’t think of the words you want to say. You can’t remember what you were supposed to do. You can’t make a decision. You feel like you’re in a fog.
  • You feel disconnected. You feel strangely apart from everyone for some reason, like there’s an invisible wall between you and the rest of the world.
  • Maybe you’re doing everything right. You are exercising. You are taking your vitamins. You have a healthy spirituality. You do yoga. You’re thinking “Why can’t I just get over this?” You feel like you should be able to snap out of it, but you can’t.
  • You might be having thoughts of running away and leaving your family behind. Or you’ve thought of driving off the road, or taking too many pills, or finding some other way to end this misery.
  • You know something is wrong. You may not know you have a perinatal mood or anxiety disorder, but you know the way you are feeling is NOT right. You think you’ve “gone crazy.”
  • You are afraid that this is your new reality and that you’ve lost the “old you” forever.
  • You are afraid that if you reach out for help people will judge you. Or that your baby will be taken away.

Postpartum Anxiety & OCD

You may have postpartum anxiety or postpartum OCD if you have had a baby within the last 12 months and are experiencing some of these symptoms:

  • Your thoughts are racing. You can’t quiet your mind. You can’t settle down. You can’t relax.
  • You feel like you have to be doing something at all times. Cleaning bottles. Cleaning baby clothes. Cleaning the house. Doing work. Entertaining the baby. Checking on the baby.
  • You are worried. Really worried. All. The. Time. Am I doing this right? Will my husband come home from his trip? Will the baby wake up? Is the baby eating enough? Is there something wrong with my baby that I’m missing? No matter what anyone says to reassure you, it doesn’t help.
  • You may be having disturbing thoughts. Thoughts that you’ve never had before. Scary thoughts that make you wonder whether you aren’t the person you thought you were. They fly into your head unwanted and you know they aren’t right, that this isn’t the real you, but they terrify you and they won’t go away. These thoughts may start with the words “What if …”
  • You are afraid to be alone with your baby because of scary thoughts or worries. You are also afraid of things in your house that could potentially cause harm, like kitchen knives or stairs, and you avoid them like the plague.
  • You may feel the need to check things constantly. Did I lock the door? Did I lock the car? Did I turn off the oven? Is the baby breathing?
  • You may be having physical symptoms like stomach cramps or headaches, shakiness or nausea. You might even have panic attacks.
  • You feel like a captive animal, pacing back and forth in a cage. Restless. On edge.
  • You can’t eat. You have no appetite.
  • You’re having trouble sleeping. You are so, so tired, but you can’t sleep.
  • You feel a sense of dread, like something terrible is going to happen.
  • You know something is wrong. You may not know you have a perinatal mood or anxiety disorder, but you know the way you are feeling is NOT right. You think you’ve “gone crazy.”
  • You are afraid that this is your new reality and that you’ve lost the “old you” forever.
  • You are afraid that if you reach out for help people will judge you. Or that your baby will be taken away.

So this is the ugly face of Postpartum depression and anxiety and if you identified with a few or all of the symptoms above – you probably are suffering from PPD, but it’s not the end of the world – ‘this too shall pass’ as they say.

I got help by doing the following (which worked for me) – I started taking an antidepressant called ‘Eglonyl’ which had a useful side effect for me which was to increase milk production, which I needed to help me breastfeed my baby. I also spoke about what I was feeling to my husband, I would suggest speaking to someone you love and trust – it really helps. Whatever you do, do not stew in your sadness and neurosis – get help.

This is what worked for me and while I am out of the worst of it, I know I am still not entirely out of the woods as I still have days when I feel some of the symptoms listed above. I take one day at a time and funny enough my son just smiling at me or hearing him laugh makes it all worth while.

I guess this is the stuff no one tells you about when everyone is encouraging you to have a baby. It truly is life changing. Hang in there mamas, you can do this!

Wardah

Happy Healthy Fabulous

Photography: Hemisha Bhana

 

*reference : www.postpartumprogress.com 

 

 

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